"Sometimes this really seems to shock people. They appear genuinely upset when I say ‘this conversation is over’ or ‘I’m actually not interested in debating this with you.’ There’s an expectation that if you care about social justice and political issues, you’re always ‘on.’ You’re always ready to debate, you’re always ready to have theoretical discussions about your own lived experiences and the issues you care about, you’re always ready to defend yourself. That’s manifestly ridiculous and unjust, an expectation that’s simply not reasonable."
Setting boundaries/self preservation <3
There’s also an assumption, if you’re interested in social justice issues, that you’re required to debate with anyone who challenges you. I’m not interested in proving the same points over and over again to trolls and “devil’s advocates” with constantly moving goalposts. I am interested in talking to people who mean well and want to fix the same problems I’m addressing.
No one owes you engagement.